Emails in The Night

I get emails from around the world asking questions about Taoism. The other night I received a post from the Middle East. The email was very energetic and the person asked questions to help settle some angst. What was interesting about this email was how it made me wonder who it was from. For instance how do you know if an email from London offering you a million dollars is from either (a) the friendly hard working Nigerian scam artist or (b) a honest London lawyer? The point being: what is it in an email that makes us feel it's authentic? In the Nigerian example the extreme idea of a honest lawyer breaks all sense of reality, so you know it's unreal. However, most other emails from strangers don't break the rules of reality so conveniently.

In my case after I read the email, I decided I couldn't tell if it was legitimate or from Homeland Security / FBI trying to determine if I was a security risk to America. I decided to show the email to a friend or two. Their responses were similar. That it indeed could be a fake email from Homeland security or it could be a honest email. I do my best to respond to all emails and what was interesting is that I responded right away since I decided how I should answered the email would actually be the same in either case. That is with honesty and trying to be helpful. After all if it were some FBI agent, it was obvious they needed help as they were living a lie by sending out these testing emails to Taoist Peace Activists.

Why can’t Women over 40 Meet trustworthy Men - Part 3

Here’s the truth... this is a time in your life where you have an opportunity to re-invent yourself and design the life you honestly want and fulfill your hearts desire. So the purpose of this blog is Not to give you the "How to Meet Quality Men" advice... because you’re not ready for that yet. This blog is to help you look in the mirror and get honest with yourself and let go of All your excuses for not meeting the good guys. Once you do that I have a little exercise for you that will help you get on the right track to meeting your ideal mate. Take the next few weeks and begin writing about the type of man that you believe would be best suited to you. To be successful with this exercise you will want to continue to work with this exercise every day for the next few weeks and keep refining it. This is not any easy ‘do it in one sitting’ assignment. Nope, it takes some real soul searching and rethinking about whom would be best suited to you in a long term relationship today. But I promise you it’s worth the effort. It’s the way to get what you want in life rather than thinking there is a reason you can’t have what you want… because you believe your excuses. Watch for my next blog post where I will take you through the next step of how and where to meet relationship minded men. Please leave me a comment and let me know if you think it’s a good idea to let go of your excuses for not meeting decent men. Or if you think I’m off base let me know what your experience has been. The end!

Why can’t Women over 40 Meet trustworthy Men - Part 2

Any logical thinking person could understand if all the good men over 40 are taken... well what’s a women to do? Before you scream Suzy, you don’t know what you’re talking about’ and stop reading... hang in here with me a few more minutes. I think there is something here that could completely change your experience of meeting good men. The first thing I want you to know is I have walked in your shoes and been exactly where you are. In my 40's when I discovered my husband had been cheating on me and left that marriage with two teenage daughters I was at my lowest low of a lifetime. And it got worse from there as I began to venture out into the dating world. Just like you I began to see the reasons as to why it was next to impossible to meet trustworthy men. But it was during this time that I accidentally discovered these reasons for not dating decent men really only helped me feel better about my frustrating problem. I mean what could I do if most of the men online were losers and that the men my age in my city were more interested in dating younger women and on and on? It was out of my control right? And when anybody challenged me on why I was having this problem I just said... listen you’re not out there and you have no idea what it’s like. The thing is I did not want to have to face the reality that maybe I was the reason for my problem. That was too hard to swallow and made feel like crap. And, it also caused me a lot of anxiety to think about getting outside of my comfort zone. But... when I finally got honest with myself... It was my desire to stay in my "comfort zone" that was the crux of my problem. Now I’m not going to try to convince you that it’s easy to meet decent men at this point in your life. It takes a commitment to do some things that will at first feel uncomfortable. It takes courage to keep putting one foot in front of the other and not stop because you have a bad experience. To be continued...

Why can’t Women over 40 Meet trustworthy Men - Part 1

A trustworthy relationship means only good surprises. What do you consider to be your biggest obstacle to meeting trustworthy men? Some women tell me where they live there are very few men available their age. Now some of these women that consider this a problem live in small towns while others live in large cities. Other women have told me that all the good men over 40, 50 or 60 are already taken. And still other women have told me that all the men their age seem to want to date younger woman. And most of these women say they have given up on the online dating sites because they’re tired of meeting the wrong men or men who lie about their marital status and everything in between. So if you are a single woman in your 40's 50's or beyond are you just doomed to spend the rest of your life alone based on how your view your circumstances? The answer is Yes and No... If you chose to believe all of the issues mentioned above like... the good men are already taken etc. than yes, you most likely will never meet your Mr. Right... at least not in this lifetime. On the other hand if you wake up to the truth... you will realize that these reasons you give yourself about why you can’t meet decent men is just a way to help you feel better about your situation. In other words it’s easier on the ego to say there is nothing I can do about the lack of good men in my city etc. To be continued...